Hello i’m cindy finch, lcsw

Effective Therapy. Big Stories. Proven Results.

 

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Helping You To Be Your Best Self.

 

 

HI THERE, MY NAME IS CINDY FINCH AND I’M REALLY GLAD YOU LANDED ON MY SITE.

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It is my honor to serve you as you work through the reasons that brought you here. Therapy is a special relationship, one I understand deeply. Read through what I have written and let me know if you’d like to connect.

I consider working with my clients to be an absolute privilege, and I feel so honored to help them take their next steps in life and move towards their dreams.

Prior to working as a therapist I spent many years raising my kids and serving the community as a social worker. While those things were incredibly fulfilling, it wasn’t until I faced cancer, became a heart/lung patient and lost my health that I really did GET IT.

My family had to be helped by a host of professionals, family members and friends because we couldn’t make it on our own. That was when I learned the power of the Tribe. Our Tribe was a symphony of support around us. Now I work in service to you, as part of your Tribe, to walk with you through your struggle and see you emerge better, stronger and more alive on the other side. Just like I did. Even if it takes a long time.

True growth doesn’t happen when everything is going right. It’s when you have to face the big stuff, THAT’S when you really grow. And life can get MUCH BETTER after we overcome our obstacles. Everything worth having is on the other side of this thing. KEEP GOING.

Camus said, “In the midst of winter there was in me an invincible summer.”

My own Invincible Summer story led me right here to you. Whether your challenge is a BIG STORY line or you just want to make some personal shifts in life, I GET IT. Let’s do this together. You’ll find out what you’re made of, change what doesn’t work anymore, keep what does, and maybe even find your life’s purpose. Like I did.

 

 

LEARN THE 5 MOST IMPORTANT THINGS

STRONG PEOPLE DO IN A CRISIS

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I have spent thousands of hours parenting, leading and helping others. In my work as a therapist, Professor and Leadership Coach I am able to pass forward specific tools and wisdom to help others find their way through hard times and keep a mindset of hope while they take their next steps.

Since completing my Master’s Degree in Clinical Social Work and my training at Mayo Clinic, I have gone on to develop specialties in parenting today’s teens and young adults, post-trauma growth, Dialectical Behavioral Therapy, complex-high-need-family interventions, traumatic loss and grief work for sudden death, and the management of a life altering illness, all for the benefit of my clients.

Since 2013, I have authored published works which have appeared on national websites and in publications like the LA Times, St. Anthonys’ Press, Huffington Post, Chasing the Cure, Rochester Women’s Magazine and more.

And because I believe I can only take my clients as far as I have gone myself, I have stayed active in my personal growth and discovery. My favorite way to grow is through new projects. Here are a few special projects I am intimately involved with right now:

Vincible the Documentary - a film about young adults with cancer.

The Glass House - an intensive five-day retreat for those with deep relationship wounds and big life-stories.

Chasing the Cure - A new, live TV show about people who with mysterious, undiagnosed illnesses and an audience who crowdsources help and answers.

Pivot - A community working to transform relationships.

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When I’m not working, I love spending time with my family and being active with friends. I love taking our pup, Bella to the Huntington Dog Beach, hiking all the great trails in Orange County, reading a good book and trying new restaurants.

I think you can learn a lot about someone by their favorite books, so I thought I would share some of my recent favorites with you…

 

IF YOU’RE READY FOR A NEW PATH I’D LOVE TO CONNECT

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Working With Families

 

 

I’M PASSIONATE ABOUT HELPING FAMILIES TRANSFORM THEIR RELATIONSHIPS SO THEY LEAVE THE LEGACY THEY DEEPLY DESIRE.  

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As a licensed therapist and parent-coach, I take pride in guiding families to safety when they’ve hit the rocks of conflict and cut-off. Parents want to leave a lasting legacy to their children, but sometimes life-circumstances can keep people from experiencing the satisfaction they thought they would have with their loved-ones.

Today’s parents face even more challenges than the generations before them which can cause pain and isolation within a family system. Learning how to adapt to this new generation of child, combined with the timeless wisdom of relationship and connectivity tools, I help parents close the gap and secure their family in these changing times.

More than ever before, parents need a trusted plan to navigate their relationships in our modern age. So much has changed regarding relationships, yet so much of the advice we receive from well meaning people, including popular culture and counselors, doesn't work. From navigating shifting gender roles, to addressing the “plugged-in” generation, to the high rate of divorced and blended families, many parents feel lost on “how to do it”.  Let’s work together to develop a system that works for you and your family.

I am a therapist and coach who is also a parent. While many therapists might be able to tell you what to do, if they don’t have kids themselves, (or kids in your age group) they have never really done those things and might not understand the unique difficulties you’re facing. Worse yet, many therapists will blame you, the parent for all of your child’s behaviors. Let’s work together and find a way around this.

“Effective parents learn to parent the child they have not the child they wish they had”

-Cindy

 

HAVING RAISED MY OWN FAMILY I LIKE TO CONSIDER MYSELF

A PARENT-COACH WHO “GET’S IT”  

If you are trying to parent today’s teen or young adult and find yourself struggling, you’re in the right place. The focus of my career has been helping people make meaningful and lasting connections with their families that are sustainable for the long-term. Hang with me for a little while and I can help you get there too.

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LEARN THE FIRST 3 THINGS EFFECTIVE PARENTS

DO REALLY WELL

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Working With Parents


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IF YOU'RE A MOM...

and you feel like your teen or young adult only wants “stuff” from you but doesn’t want to “be” with you anymore… and that their friends have taken over… and technology is all they want…and you’re not sure how to reach them…. or they isolate themselves all the time…and may even hurt themselves…you’ve landed in the right place.

 
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IF YOU'RE A DAD....

and you’re unsure about whether your kids will be able to launch and be responsible for themselves…or you’re worried about their grades… and they’re pushing you away…or using drugs and getting into trouble…or questioning they’re gender…and the conflict is hurting your other kids…or interfering with your marriage…Hang with me for a little while and I can help you address all of that.

 

PLEASE EXPLORE ALL OF YOUR OPTIONS BEFORE SENDING YOUR CHILD TO A TREATMENT PROGRAM OR RESIDENTIAL OUT-OF-HOME CARE.  

If you’re currently trying to solve a seemingly unresolvable dilemma with your child’s high risk behaviors, the way they act at home, their secretive behaviors, and your own fears, let’s start a conversation about what you can change NOW to deal with this problem at home, within your family. Treatment centers and residential settings are often $10,000+ a month and many families just don’t have that kind of money. But there are ways to address this - in your home - without spending thousands of dollars. Sometimes, there's more hope than you feel at the moment. 


WHAT OTHER PARENTS HAVE SAID ABOUT WORKING WITH ME

“When we first met with Cindy we didn’t know what to do. Our daughter was out of control and seemed to ruin every family event she showed up at. And when she wasn’t with us she did such scary things that we didn’t know which was worse? Having her ruin events but know she’s safe because we could at least see her or waiting for the phone call that she was in trouble again, needed money or had hurt herself. After a few meetings with Cindy we learned how to best respond to her whether she was with us or not. Now we’re rebuilding our relationship with her and family time is more peaceful.” - J

“She helped me figure things out from a place I never knew existed and I am back on track! Old stuff that use to weigh me down doesn’t bother me anymore. Old relationships, choices, fears…gone” - D

“…It’s not often that parents get to feel “heard” these days. When we got to Cindy we had thrown our hands up and actually regretted having kids. It’s so frustrating to be a parent. She helped us figure out what was happening and change our family for the good.” -A

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LET’S GET YOUR FAMILY BACK ON TRACK

SO YOU CAN SLEEP AT NIGHT

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Working With Medical Patients & Helping Families

 

 

OFFERING MEDICAL PATIENTS THE CHANCE TO BE SEEN AND HEARD.

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When you or someone you really care about is going through a major illness, has had multiple surgeries, struggles with daily pain or lives with chronic disease, your life (and theirs) can feel upside down. And too often, the medical community wants to treat people like they’re just a number rather than a real person who used to be energetic, productive & well.

You're probably really tired of being sick or taking care of someone who is and you long for a NORMAL life. Maybe you even struggle with guilt because you don’t like being a burden to those around you or you might feel resentful for having to take care of your loved one. This isn’t the life you imagined with them. I know how frustrating that can be. It's a common story I hear in my work, but one I want you to know can be fixed.

As a cancer survivor and former heart/lung patient I have a unique perspective that can be incredibly helpful to my medical clients and their families. Blending a deep understanding of psycho social health care alongside the psychology of disease & resilience, I GET IT and can help you as you go through this. Together, let’s reclaim your quality of life, adjust to the pain and develop deeper connections with your loved one’s. Let’s check in and get you back on track.

 

YOU DESERVE TO BE HEARD AND UNDERSTOOD WHILE YOU GO THROUGH THIS…BY SOMEONE WHOSE BEEN THERE. I'M PASSIONATELY COMMITTED TO HELPING YOU. 

Feeling overwhelmed and isolated as you go through an illness is normal but I don’t want you to do this alone. Your friends and family members might be overwhelmed too. There’s so much that happens when we lose our health. Together, let's make sense of what is going on and give you a plan for changing things. You don't have to feel this way forever. I am passionate about helping you get through this and have some control along the way.

EVEN IF WE MEET JUST A FEW TIMES, TALKING WITH SOMEONE WHO “GETS IT” CAN MAKE ALL THE DIFFERENCE. DON'T LOSE HEART.

 
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My youngest son Brandon and I during cancer treatments. Cancer had grown while I was pregnant with him.

Brandon’s 10th birthday and Year 10 of remission from cancer for me. After making it through open heart and open lung surgery a few years before this I am so humbled and grateful to be alive.

Here we are and he’s 19. Hooray, it is such a joy to have every day with my family! BTW, can you spot the newest little member of our family in this picture?

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LEARN THE 5 MOST IMPORTANT THINGS

STRONG PEOPLE DO IN A CRISIS

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As a therapist helping families with complex illnesses, these are some of the common challenges I help my clients solve: 

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✓ Isolation that comes from supporting a sick loved one

✓ Guilt from wishing for a different life

✓ Fears about the future

✓ Dread of facing life alone

✓ Worries about insurance and finances

✓ Scheduling complexities

✓ Parenting alongside a sick spouse

 

 

IF YOU’RE READY TO TRY A NEW PATH, I’D LOVE TO CONNECT

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Working With You Through Loss


 

BEING CONFRONTED BY A SUDDEN LOSS CAN FEEL SO SHOCKING AND UNBELIEVABLE. WASN’T YOUR LOVED ONE JUST HERE A MINUTE AGO?

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After we lose someone we love, we feel like we’ll never be the same. It’s true. You will never be the same. There’s a hole in your life where they were and now you have to face every day without them.

As someone who was forced to say goodbye too soon to a person you love because of an accident, crime, illness, suicide or mass violence you know that there are so many heavy, confusing and overwhelming feelings that can flood your life. In the blink of an eye, they’re gone. And now you’re left with so many painful questions.

  • WHY DID THIS SENSELESS TRAGEDY HAPPEN?

  • DID THEY SUFFER?

  • WHOSE TO BLAME?

  • COULD I HAVE DONE SOMETHING DIFFERENTLY?

  • WHY DID GOD ALLOW THIS?

  • WHO AM I NOW, WITHOUT THEM?

“I finally came to the realization that I needed someone to talk to, since I recently lost my son. I called many therapists trying to feel some kind of connection but knowing not just anyone would do. I came across Cindy’s website and her own story touched me. I felt as though she was someone who could relate to life and its challenges through her own experiences… When I spoke with her it was her kindness that was extraordinary. I could feel the sorrow she felt for me and for my loss. I felt her empathy for my son and I. Human compassion is the gift she gave me right from the beginning and I felt an immediate connection. After speaking with her for the first time I felt as if I was going to make it through this horrific journey. I truly believe my beautiful son led her to me.” -A

 
 
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DEATH OF THE DREAM

Not only did your beloved die but so did the dreams you had for the life you could have and should have shared together. The Death of the Dream is so hard to bear after we lose the one we love.

While grief naturally heals over time, it can hit you so hard that you feel like you’ll never be able to move on. And maybe that’s true. Your loved one’s life has forever changed you so why would you want to leave them behind and move on without them?

I know nothing feels the same anymore. But don’t give up hope, your loved one is closer than you think. Their life has many lessons for you now and even though they are gone from your eyes they are still with you. Let’s talk, it’s time to start a new relationship with them that will stay with you forever. Let’s connect and go through this together. When you’re ready.

“Those we love never truly leave us. There are things that death cannot touch.”

― Jack Thorne

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WAYS TO HONOR YOUR LOVED ONE WHO HAS DIED

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 For My Individual Clients: Having a place to sort through life's more difficult and complex challenges is something I specialize in helping with. Many of the people I work with are working through things such as:  

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✓ Loss of a Spouse, Child or Loved One

✓ Relationship Crisis Geared Toward Saving Your Marriage

✓ Communication Struggles with Your Adult Children

✓ Loss of Health - Rebuilding After an Illness

✓ A Difficult Relationship With a Family Member

✓ Relationship Driven Anxiety & Depression

✓ Managing Work-Life Balance & Occupational Issues

✓ Addiction Problems With a Family Member

✓ Coping With Mental Illness

✓ Going Through a Life Transition

 


MAYBE A COACHING INTENSIVE IS FOR YOU

Want to re-invigorate your staff? Experiencing relationship challenges? Major illness? Family conflict? On the brink of divorce? A deep dive under my care as a Leadership Coach can restore the hope you’ve lost and get things going in the right direction. When you and your family or employees feels stuck and when other interventions haven’t helped there are STILL options. Some people just can’t attend weekly counseling for months on end…that’s when a workplace or individual intensive is recommended. In my work as a coach I offer my clients a one-day or weekend “retreat-style” intensive where we focus solely on YOU. I even come to you.

Together we create a space of personalized problem solving and when we’re done you have a game plan. Less expensive than private treatment centers or corporate consultants, cheaper than divorce and often more effective in a shorter amount of time than weekly therapy sessions. Hold on, I’m here for you.

  • CORPORATE RE-CHARGE AND TEAM BUILDING

  • FAMILY INTENSIVE

  • END OF LIFE AND LEGACY INTENSIVE

  • INDIVIDUAL “CHANGING GEARS” INTENSIVE

 

IF YOU’RE READY TO TRY A NEW PATH, I’D LOVE TO CONNECT

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INFO

 

 
 
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My Office

I have two office locations for your convenience:

Newport Office: 4100 Newport Place Suite #730, Newport Beach, CA 92660 (US Bank Building)

Lake Forest Office: 23832 Rockfield Blvd # 120, Lake Forest Ca, 92630

Phone: 507-319-9348 E-mail info@cindyfinch.com


 
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About Insurance:

 I am an out-of-network provider with insurance companies. 

Please consult with your insurance company about you out-of-network benefits for therapy.

 I can provide you with a medical receipt for you to submit to your insurance company for reimbursement. 

 
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Fees: 

My fees vary depending on the needs of my clients. 

Once I understand your goals, I can provide you with a quote for us working together.

 

YOU DON'T HAVE TO STAY FRUSTRATED AND ALONE. LET'S CONNECT AND I'LL GIVE YOU A PLAN.


If you feel like we might be a good fit for each other, I would love to hear from you.  

Please take a second to fill out the form below and I'll get back to you within 24-hours. 




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